In Honor of My Rocks!

Webster’s Dictionary defines Rocks as: a solid mineral material forming part of the earth; or a kind of hard confectionary in the form of cylindrical flavored sticks; or a precious stone especially a diamond, and for some reason Websters also has it listed a piece of Crack Cocaine as a Rock – I guess that is commion knowledge — not to me but not all rocks are created equal, I guess. Take mine for example, I have other Rocks – as my family, and I rave about them often….But these girls – They are SPECIAL IN SO MANYY WAYS and I just need to tell you about them! Their is such great beauty and majesty in them just like the header picture — and I want to honor them today!

In not specific order, I starat with My friend Wendy. She and I have been through Cancer together. She and her Husband Doug, have been our friends since 1999. We were neighbors and attached – literally. We lived on opposite ends of the same townhouse Unit. And it has been just a special relationship on so many levels. We have shared such joy, such laughter and sadly some great losses. But we have come through in all 0f them – and now share a bond of great love, friendship caring and laughter. She also kows my oncologist – whois soooo Lovely but has some really funny quirks and wit hWendy we laugh about them., we talk about the stories and she gives me advice on how to deal with her. I can make jokes about things that happen at treatment – and she gets it! And my dog Nelly adores them since Doug (Wendy’s husband) ventured into a Trader Joe’s accross from his office, to get Nelly her favorite Chicken Wrap Bones….and me my favorite frozen spinach pies. Can you say “Savior.” 🙂 Wendall – you are my purple/amethyst rock that I carry with me every day!!

Next is my friend Jen. She is an abudance of laughter and fun and giggles. We meet because her oldest and my twins made an instantaneous bond the first day of pre-school. Wereven began talking of my son and her daughter’s marriage pretty quickly…They loved being together – day after day. We just did so much together. As the kids played, we talked, we laughed and we discovered new areas we had in common. We took the girls to concerts – the Jonas Berothers was a huge get for our girls…I think we were 5th row center atthe Prudentioal center -loads of “mommy points” for her andI on that one! Jen’s smile and warmth is just so enveloping —I can feel every emotion she feels pass right into me! it’s infectious. Even though now we do that virtually – it still works. And I appreciate so and lover her for it! And I can’t forget to give a shoult out to here husband Rick who aslo make my husband laugh — much needed!!!!!!

The next is a group of 3 that I have know since the very early 1980’s (one since 1979) but these three have seen me go through Cancer 3 times. And they have never faultered. They have always been there – and I don’t mean just physically – I mean emotionally, familiarly,friendshilply (probably not a word but you get what i mean) and now every morning we are together via Marco Polo. We talk abourt the day, the isolation, the Netflix finds we all need to see, the funny meme’s, the online concerts for free, Cooking tips from Lisa, WWHL and Bravo info from Lauren, Seminar and Broadway info from Amy (in California) – Amy is our insomniac — she is usually 1st on on Marco Polo in the Morning and she is three hours behind us! She was the one that starts he Marco Polo every moring with “The Covid Chronicles Day …..” The picture of us on top was from a trip to see the redwoods in California….Lauren couldn’t make it, but that did stop us – we are a team — So we found a way to bring Flat Lauren (inspired by Flat Stanley) She eat and shopped and toured with us everywhere – she even had time alone on the beach….And know they are there for me again. On Moarco Polo encouraging me, keeping me smiling and just being what I need true support – I love you!

The last – and by no means least are Elaine and Amy. They both deserve their own but we are a team – we are a group – we are Rocks for each other. These 2 women can make anything good, they can turn any situation into a positve and they can light up any day – no matter what.
Small gestures, Big funny moments, family meals (and I mean family – sometimes it is all the kids in-laws and kids friends/boyfriends), impromptu runs to Costco, Bed, Bath and Beyond, Stew Lenards, CVS, Walk with dogs, or just a glass of wine — ok lots of wine — these two are all that and more. Amy is also a hero. She is an ER nurse now working in on the frontlines at a Hospital in Yonkers. I can sense the exhaustion, she is plagued with. And I feel for her. She is dedicatied and positive, and funny, and lovely – but this is hard on anyone – so being as dedication as she is – is just incredible. Elaine is also someone to be admired and respected. She is smart, funny, gifted and giving. She has two great sons that are back . Her Mother-in-law is with them as well + 2 dogs Gina and Ginger – who we love – WELL my Nelly finds them annoying, so in a way the social distancing is making Nelly happy. for that matter Nelly isn’t a fan of Sydney either (Amy’s dog) Is it possible Nelly is a Bitch and a Snob. Oy! These two women have been there for me in every need, and unfortunatley their have been to many – the loss of my Dad and Mom, and my Breast Cancer, and other less tragic – But more importantly they have been there for the joy – the graduations, the birthdays, the holidays, outings to concerts, and pool days, and dinners, and food (SO MUCH FOOD), and smiles and laughter — even now through it all they make me laugh – from a safe distance of course. I could not survive with out these two. They are my foundational rocks for sure……I have no wasy to describe my love for them! YOU ROCK! Rocks

I woke up this morning feelig grateful. Times are hard. Everyday they news seems dreary…but the truth is, their is still joy and still happiness out there — It may be harder to find — but you can do it! Don’t look at the negative…that is easy to find – it is a little harder but look for the good, the happy, the hope know move away from the dreary! Their is an end to this, their is a light at the end of this road….collectively we can raise each others spirit through many ways…..I love you all, and I believe in your spirit! Look up, We can! We will! Watch us — Rocks are hard to destroy!!!!!! We are Diamonds – let’s shine collectiviely

Let’s speak soon,

Carol

@funnycancermom